Thursday, June 30, 2011

Wife is the best friend for life

Recently ,I happened to see a Movie which revolved around 2 close friends.The story as usual had 2 close friends and one lady love whom the guy is crazy for.but unfortunately ,lady love ditches him and he ends up n left behind with his close friend who already was secretly in love with him.So then a mediator(a common friend) tries to convince this guy and makes him realise that "A wife is the best friend for life"and that he was lucky to have his best friend as his life mate.
    Well ,the story was as usual boring being   on the same story lines ,but the message it gave me was really the one  to be pondered upon!!How many of the husbands really feel that their wives are their best Friends?We know that husband and wives especially in India during the past years and some even now,share a very unique relation ,with the husbands owning a sense of authority and responsibility over the wife and the wife being the very obliged or engrossed in the family responsibilities.There was less scope for mutual interactions and communications.Even with the changing times ,with wives being more career oriented  and busy with their own chores and duties,having less scope for sharing her thoughts or views with her husband.Or may be there was a sense of self created barrier which was hindering their ability too express themselves.We have so many good friends with whom we share almost every personal matter of ours or there are so many common things we share which make them so special to us.If I relate to my relation with my hubby dear,we may be east n west in a lot of things ,we may have different opinions about certain things,but there are  a few common likes and dislikes which we share and those small unique matters helps us going like bread and butter.We love cooking and eating delicacies over the weekend,we both are typical foodies and can hog on a lot of junk food,I suddenly have mood swings and feel like dining out and my hubby is ready for it!.We both love watching movies late night together and laugh out loud,(even though they may be the comedy movies which he prefers) we love exploring new places ,we hate people trying to show off and love modest people.we may not discuss everything n anything ,but we have long talks and discuss each others personal maters at office and home.I would not say that we are the best friends ,but we share an unique relation which has elements of love ,affection,friendship and care . With growing times even the bond gets stronger and even I feel that a wife could be a husband's best friend for life.


A said...

Spouse is your ultimate friend regardless of differences in nature, taste and physique.

Simply Speaking "A" Simple

Balachandran V said...

Your spouse can be your best friend, but your best friend cannot be your spouse! :-D

Seriously, friendship is the best platform to build a marital relationship. However, the basic difference between friendship and marriage is the absence of possessiveness in the former, compared to the latter. Without possessiveness, with respect, love follows naturally and - Well, Parvati and I are still the best of friends, but she understands and accepts my male and female friends just as I, hers.

You might like to read my (You might have already) my post, ' Falling in love with Parvati'.


yes, i time passes this bond which starts as a social contract gets stronger n both of them becomes their best friends, sharing all ups n downs of the life together.

nice post.

Shobha said...

I totally agree with you.
I am so lucky to have a husband who has always been like a friend/philosopher/guide.Each and every moment with him is so precious and memorable for me...and the bond of our relationship is growing with the passing years.

NRIGirl said...

Very true Raji. I can honestly say Israel is my best friend and believe I am his too.

raji said...

@A That's nice of u to accept that.:)

@bala sir :))))tht was for your statement "your best friend cannot be your spouse ,well depends on the gender;anyways these days that too happen in wetern countries..:))

I think I have read your post "falling in love with parvati"yes I have ..the bus and "P "resting on your shoulders and so on...such a sweet romantic story that was .:)

raji said...

@irfaan ..yes irfaan with grwoing years ,we come more closer to each other.

@shoba nice to know the relation u share with your husband ..god bless.

years of togetherness has naturally created the bond hephsibah .That's really nice!

anupama said...

very well written raji!.... i am happy for ur lovely relation with NP and wish u many more years of happy togetherness.

Spicy Sweet said...

I agree Raji..
Wife/Husband is the best friend.. If such a thought remains in the relationship, there will remain superior level of understanding and hence transparency.
The comfort level to talk out your heart will come with our best friend.
Good post. Liked it. :)

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rama said...

I totally agree with you.

Bikramjit said...

well thats why they call your wife/husband the BETTER HALF :)

True what you say.. what can someone want more then to have the best friend as life partner ..


dr.antony said...

Friendship is a very unique relationship,peraps the best of all.Marriage is different.There is a sense of belonging in marriage.There are obligations to fullfill and duties to do.One can be friendly with his wife,that is fine,but the relationship is not the same.